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Parenting struggles: control

By: Rob
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If you find yourself on an uphill battle when it comes to getting your kids to do what you want them to, you are not alone.  Many parents today, including us, struggle with finding a balance of how much control to give our children.  Dr. Leonard Sax, a family doctor, says American families are facing a crisis of authority: “If children are given smartphones and allowed to spend the bulk of their free time texting, playing video games, and surfing the Internet, they become increasingly reliant on peers and the media for guidance on how to live, rather than getting such guidance at home. And if they won't sit still in class or listen to adults, they're often prescribed medication, a quick fix that actually undermines their self-control.”

Perhaps you’ve heard it’s good to treat your children like adults, but Dr. Sax says parents are often confused about what that means.  While talking to Jerry and Blanca, he explains how to find a balance between treating a child like an adult and giving a child the authority of an adult. 

In the audio below, you’ll hear real life examples of parents doing it right and of parents with good intentions doing it wrong. You’ll learn the importance giving our kids age appropriate chores and responsibilities along with teaching them important life lessons like, humility.

You’ll also hear answers to questions you may have as a parent like, what are age appropriate chores? Should I let my teenager keep her phone when she goes to bed? Should I let my child decide what we’re having for dinner? And many more.

Dr. Leonard Sax is a family physician and psychologist, with almost 30 years of experience. He is the author of his most recent book, “The Collapse of Parenting: How We Hurt Our Kids When We Treat Them Like Grown-Ups.” 

As parents ourselves, we know how difficult it is not to follow the ways of this world. Our hope is this interview will encourage you as a parent. You are not alone.

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